Are You Giving Up Because Of This?
You’re a loser, unless you change how you see this.
It never feels good. Rejection never feels good.
Mostly when we’re first-timers because we get the feeling that our work, our effort is useless. We aren’t good enough.
“I guess this is not my thing. I thought I loved writing. I thought this idea was exclusive. Well, there goes my dream.”
Let me ask you something. How many tries have you given it? How much practice did you put there? What are you willing to lose to get that work done?
I understand that if you care is because that specific thing you’re doing is your passion, your dream. But the struggle to it is what makes it valuable. There’s no real progress without struggle. Things aren’t that easy.
There’s only one thing left: Persistence.
Just think about it. What if the first time we ever did something we get what we want? What’s the point of it? Then, hard work, effort, the whole process of a dream would make no sense.
Walt Disney had a dream, that’s for sure. He just came up with the whole concept for Mickey Mouse and theme park. He was pretty excited. He understood what he wanted, why he wanted it and went after it. And his dream’s there.
Again, it wasn’t that easy. Walt went bank after bank to get his dream financed. One after another said no. Ten, twenty, fifty…
Walt Disney was rejected 300 times. Walt Disney’s dreams got rejected 300 times. They all thought his ideas where absurd. But he went to bank 301. And they, finally, said, “Yes, let’s work with it.”
“I learned that the difficult thing is not to get to the top, but to never stop climbing.”
There’s a balance into rejection. A 50/50 rule.
For a year, I was a writer to two online magazines, covering the entertainment section on both. For a year, every article and review I wrote got published with not much complication. I settled into it.
When I started on Medium that changed. Not all my writings were accepted. I was obliged to train myself better.
If you get accepted all the time, you’re doing something wrong. If you get rejected all the time, you’re doing something wrong. It’s the 50/50 rule I believe in.
Rejection is not personal. Instead of thinking of it that way take some insight into your work. Maybe it’s not the moment. Maybe you got to sharpen more your writing. Maybe you have to look at it from another point of view. Maybe you have to keep moving.
What makes the difference is not how many times you get rejected or accepted, but what are you going to do push forward those obstacles and improve your skills.
Never forget the word persistence. It does wonders.
-Anabel Estrella
